Tips to communicate effectively with children in a crisis (on weekends):

1. Calm down!( they are all alive, the scream was just a normal routine scream)

2. Listen to the children and look around carefully and assess the situation.(There might be a slipper near by which might come in handy) kidding 😬

3. Take deep breaths.( you might not breath properly after you find out what actually happened)🤕🤕😬

4. Ask questions which give them space and offer solutions e.g: "i heard some one screaming and I really hope you all know that the best mannered child is the one who avoids creating such scenes and tries to develop love by sharing and giving" the children will hopefully get the message and immediately look for workable solutions within. ( keep flexing the slipper in your hand 😉)

5. Once and if the crisis subsides momentarily, immediately assign tasks and create small teams so that they remain busy while you finish your own work. Give some a duster and a mop to go clean an area ( make sure you cleaned it earlier) and give some other kid the responsibility to cut or peel some vegetable. This will relax the children and develop good culinary and domestic skills.
( weekends are not for your relaxation 😑)

6. DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT try to blame any child for anything. They will start blaming each other and lying. Just inform them that you are aware of the damage and want all of them to help you clean it. ( this will save you from the extra screaming and crying that might ensue if you name some one🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️)

Have a fun filled weekend 😑😢😬

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